There was a time when people found out who they were spending the rest of their life with in the mandap. We’re sure there are parts of India where that still happens but that’s certainly not what happened with Shahid and Mira. Arranged marriages are not better than love marriages, but they’re not worse than love marriages either so we decided to stand up for this institution – the unnecessary dragging of Shahid Kapoor on Twitter for his comments about how and when he fell in love with Mira.
When Shahid and Mira were on Koffee with Karan recently, a lot of Karan Johar’s questions were about how they got married. When asked when he realized he was in love with Mira, Shahid said, “That happened after she got pregnant. We got very close.” Mira agreed, and said, “In an arranged marriage, it just brings you both close in a very special way.”
Talking about his pre-courtship period with Mira Rajput, Shahid Kapoor disclosed that Mira’s mother mistook the marriage proposal thinking that it was for Shahid’s younger brother.
“Mira’s mom thought it was for my younger brother since he is age-wise more in her bracket than me. I was apparently too old.”
Shahid also said, “I am a huge supporter of arranged marriage. I think the graph of arranged marriage is you come with no expectations. Then, if you hit it off, each day gets better. So the process of falling in love happens after you’re married. Which is unlike in a romantic relationship, where you always feel like the peak of love was in the beginning. Lot of times you’re looking back and thinking, when will those days come back.”
These are great points in isolation. No one should force women to get pregnant immediately after getting married, and no one should force women to pick marriage over ambition. Except… that’s not what happened with Mira. When Shahid announced his wedding 18 months ago to a then 21-year-old, lots of people raised eyebrows over their age difference. But on the show, the couple genuinely seemed happy and comfortable with each other.
In a country where the culture of dating is still fairly new, how is this an awful way of meeting people? Why are your friends allowed to set you up with someone, but not your parents?
Also, are love marriages in any way superior? That those couples don’t fight, have issues, or ever get divorced? Are you saying that two consenting adults who got married and had a baby while dealing with heightened scrutiny from lakhs of people can’t talk about how happy they are with each other without the internet telling them to shut up because their parents were the reason they met?
Here’s how it all started for @shahidkapoor and #MiraRajput! #KoffeeWithShahid pic.twitter.com/FEYpfD7UEh
— Star World (@StarWorldIndia) January 1, 2017
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